Its the worse when..

You have this sexy man, who is a prefect catch, staring at you , both of you knowing your not compatible or are in two different places in your life. The prefect catch being a nice, caring young man who is focused, smart, attractive, interesting, not only interested in men, connected, totally OK with himself, who likes to move his body, loves his family, and who will go listen to house music with you, because he some what enjoys it. When you have similar morals and belief, but one person is a night owl and the other is a early riser, things don't seem to always work out. Yet, Its such a shame , when you know that you could or would give up your life style for such a catch, but in the end the relationship would never last. One of you would be unhappy, because you weren't living the truth you felt you need to experience. Trust me when I say this, I've been there.

It just can be so frustrating, when you seem to be into completely the wrong guys. I think I've come to learn there is something you can learn from everyone. Also, You might be getting just that same vibe you put out to others. For example, you're a fun smart person who likes to let loose sometimes and get wild like an animal, but maybe the real honest truth is your not ready for the intense commitment and real thing just yet. Maybe you'll looking to have fun, get to know yourself a little more and maybe that fun intimate partner in crime can one day turn into the real thing. Or maybe you will just fall into something  and not even realize it. It could so happen you're just into the player time and sometimes you might just get player. No matter if you staring at the prefect catch or just some guy who has the ball, you should always follow your heart and how someone makes you feel, because in the end that is where the true chemistry lays.  

Cheers, Here's to love and an awesome new friendship with a prefect catch. Try your hardest not to be afraid to love, because its totally OK to be in love with someone. 

XO, 

Andy

Climbing partner

Recently I joined Planet Granite and started rock climbing, meaning I only boulder for now and I only go like once a week :/.  Anyhow, It is a great workout and lots of fun. It stimulates the mind and body. I love the challenge. The climbing community has intrigued  me and how it relates to meeting people.

I noticed whenever I meet new people, especially guys, we get on the subject of climbing, and they always mention how they are looking for a climbing partner. I know literally they mean they just want someone who will just belay them, but sometimes it feels like there's a deeper meaning behind it. It's as if they are putting it all out there, right away and straight to the point. Is it a sign of commitment? It totally feels like there is this underlining message, as if they mean business.  Like, "I don't fuck around, I'm a climber. I'm looking for someone who is just as serious about this sport/hobby as me, do you think you could commit to that?" Or,  "I'm looking for a climbing partner and I go a few times a week. What do you think? Want to meet up?"

Honestly, I have no idea how to take this statement. I freeze up and just say I'm a newbie who only boulders. Maybe that is a big sign that I don't know how to be a WE, but just only a ME.  Either way, I don't know if I'm ready to commitment to climbing with someone yet. It appears to be a lot of pressure. Then not only are you committing to that person, but you have to commitment to the sport by buying gear and all that jazz. Don't get me wrong, when I like some thing, I'm all about the commitment, sign me up. But, when you're just getting your feet wet in the shallow end,  it can be intimidating when a sexy men says he is looking for a climbing partner as he stares at you. It makes me just want to run the other direction and hide in a hole.

Maybe it some mental and physical push I just have to get over, just like climbing. You don't get better if you don't practice, right? Here's to completely a V2 next climb!

Dropping a bottle of hearts....

"Go where your heat takes you... Listen to your feelings and trust them. Let them guide you through life and it's choices. You might just find what you are looking for!," read the wine bottle called The Flying Heart. How could you resist buying a bottle that speaks to you this much, especially when your at a cross roads between your heart and your head. I should of seen the red flags when the clerk told me the wine was a little on the sweet side for a red, typically I favor more the bolt. Choosing the right bottle of wine can be just as important as choosing the right guy; However,  it appears getting the guy back to your pad is a lot easier then getting the right bottle home.

As I crossed the street, I thought to myself, I should be careful how I'm holding this bag. Right in that moment, yup, a bottle fell in the middle of the inner section, so I yelled in frustration. Luckily, it was just a little damaged. I went to grab the rest of my belongs, while holding the bottle between my legs. Then again the bottle fell, neck first, causing a crack big enough to create a leak. The question left on my mind was, "I hope the second bottle is worth it, and its not just a pretty face."

After getting home, it was time to open the thing and get the night started. As I assumed, the drama wasn't worth the pop. The bottle of wine was so confused. It didn't know what to be, sweet or tangy. So not only did my first heart crack in the middle of the street, but the second was a bust. Leaving me without any satisfaction for my efforts, it just so happens the Flying Heart was nothing more then a beautiful bottle with a miss leading inspiration.

 Walking home with a paper bag with two bottle of wine, is like wearing your heart on your sleeve. You have to thread lightly, when at a crossroad, or else you might end up with a bottle that isn't so tasty. The one paper bag that decides it wants to bail on you, teaches us that you should double bag your wine , when walking it home. Also, stop buying bottles, because they sound to good to be true.