Where does intuition come into play with matters of the heart?

I try to follow my heart, but I tend to not bring my brain a long with me in moments when I should. I think its, because I'm always in my mind. My obsession with romance or intense feelings, help me get out of my own prison.  Yet, when I let myself go, feel, and then react, the out come seems to go against my intuition or vision. I guess, it's because you don't have control  over how others react to a situation or how they feel. Hey, maybe they just want one thing, or maybe they felt what you felt and it scared them. I'm going to hope for the latter. Why, because I'm a hopeless romantic, who let it go once; yet, we reconnected on the dance floor, one of the most rhythm places to rekindle a flame.

I'm pretty sure we have all meet that one person, who no matter what, you want to go back to them. It's not just that they are beautiful or handsome, but, because, there is something that  attracts you to them, like a magnetic, maybe they are the cation to your anion. Besides  the polar bond, they have qualities that are important to you. A sensitive side, which must of sucked me in, because I find it so sexy, or maybe that awkward dorkiness puts a smile on my face.  I love that you are rough around the edges too. But, maybe I'm attracted to the comfort of being completely who I am around you. Or how I  am constantly on my toes trying to read you. Obsessed much? Um I won't call it an obsession, maybe passion.


 If friends are all we can be, can we at least be good friends who care for one another? P.S., can you really teach me to DJ? I don't need another partner in crime. Amy Winehouse did sing it best, "Stop making a fool out of me;" however, she did die from an overdose. RIP. But this time, I'm not going to let you make a fool out of me. Google,  is my preventive tool.  I think it proved to me I was just another score on the board. But sometimes miracles happen, Here's to Hope.


With unconditional love,
XOXO

Public Works...

 I <3 you!! I always have an amazing time. It must be a combination of the venue, music and, of course, the crowd. The venue itself has a very stimulating and intimate setting with it's wooden bar. Whenever you go, it always seems like a new place with all the rotation of art.  As for the music, As You Like It did a great job with the line up. Heidi preformed in the main room and was throwing down amazing beats. She appeared to be having a blast, along with the crowd. It is always a pleasure to see familiar smiling faces and being able to catch up with a few at these events.


While being a little off beat, tearing up the dance floor, my eyes were opened to a few things. First, I learned you can't be afraid of your light within. You need to let it shine, o let it shine. Secondly, I learned that being highly intoxicated while trying to converse with a potential mate, is not cute. You never know the effect one crazy evening can have on your reputation, pull it together drunken ones. Third, if you're interested in someone and are looking to get to know them more, don't be a bitch, period. Sassy, fierce, and assertive are not a bad thing, but being bitchy, because you're tired and stressed, not OK. Especially when you are a nice and easy going gal, it can be very deceptive. Plus, aren't you at these events to relax and let yourself go? If the answer is yes, then do so.  Finally, if a guy asked you to hang out and you think that is a great a idea, never say you're really busy, even if you are. Maybe next time, you should try saying, "I'd love to hang out, but the beginning of this week I'm a little swamped. How about we get together some time later in the week?' Now that is friendly and shows that you are interested. A text message isn't going to cut it Hun, because anyone can send one of those or a FB chat. 


Keep doing what you're doing, and don't let those quakes shake up your potential love life. Stay grounded, healthy and keep moving to the beat. 

A part of the weekend never dies...

The Soulwax track says it best, "A part of the weekend never dies," because I seem to always take something away from mine. Most of the time it seems to pertain about love, attraction or relationships. Sometimes, your weekend can bring you epiphanies or can help you stumble upon meanings for certain things that have been brought to you in  your life. This weekend was jammed packed with social events and good friends, from an As You Like it party to the Little Dragon concert. And when you  work as hard as I do, you get to unwind and play as hard as you work, but with the play there can also come many lessons.

Within the last few months, I have  meant some really interesting people. One in particular has made an impact in my life, for the better, of course. Throughout our interactions and faulty dating experience; I don't know if you call what we were doing dating, but I have learned a lot.  I learned you can't have what you want, if you aren't completely open to it. Also you shouldn't have a type of person you like, because you limited yourself. You'd  be surprised by the people you can fine attractive and desire, once you get to know them, or they put their spell on you. 

From a conservation I had, with this person about my weekend,  other things aroused that I've come to realize. One, if you really want a relationship, it's not just about giving and receiving love. It's about being able to need someone and except help from someone, while also being able to proved that security in return. For example, when your sick and throwing up after over indulging, don't turn that person away when they are trying to take care of you and see if you are ok. You have to be able to let others help you and show you affection, if you hope to one day have it as your own. Secondly, you want someone you can share your hopes, dreams, interests and morals with; yet,  you want someone who makes you feel comfortable, safe and you sexual desire so much that the thought of touching them drives you mad. Thirdly, savor your favor, because  it's worth more then you think. There is always a time and place for everything. 

Love your family, friends and all that brings you joy and happiness into your live. Be open and receptive to love and kindness. Stay tuned for the story about a  chemical illusion. xoxo

Eye Contact

When I was little, my father always told me that I should look at people when I was speaking to them, preferably in their eyes. I never ask why nor did I get the reason at the time. Throughout my childhood into my adulthood, I learned that talking to someone and looking that person in their eyes was a difficult thing to do. Many people can't and don't do it.  I also learned it was a way of showing respect and good way to read people.

In todays society, I've noticed it is something that many do not do. According to a British scientist only 30-60% of people actually look at each other when conversing.  Maybe it's a way  to protect oneself, because, in some cultures, the eyes are a gate way into ones soul. It can be disrespectful to have a conversation and make eye contact, for varies reasons.

When it comes to love, the secret is eye contact. It is one of the most powerful things a couple can do, besides all the body language cues. Looking into your prospects eyes, can help you get to the next step in  courtship in many cases. 

So don't be shy, look that hottie in the eye!! But take it slow, start looking at the face and then gaze into their eyes, while listening and talking. It can be quit intense so try for a few seconds and then slowly increase the time you peer into those irresistible  irises.

It also  has been proved that eye contact can lead to love at first sight. How you look at someone places a roll in developing phenylethylamine in the subject of desire. So, if you are looking for love, start giving the bedroom gaze a little more and longer. Go find the guy/gal of your dreams and have a sexy stare off, because you never know, you might spark the flame and become lovers!

Older Men

Have you ever noticed, how attractive older men are? Well, in San Francisco, there seems to be a lot of them. Older, is where it's at. So forget those little 20 something skater guys, and tell them, to give you a call when they become a man.  Older men know how to treat a women. Maybe I'm being an ageist here, but from experience and talking with others, older men seem to know a thing or two.

A lot of older men in the city are very fashionable,  which adds to their overall appeal. When an older man strikes up a conversation with you, it can be intimidating. It makes one wonder, what do you have to offer. It's that youthful energy and the possibility that you're not jaded.  But what they don't know is that we are probably are jaded. Dating older men isn't just for the rich and fabulous either. Maybe you should try one out, but be careful, because they most likely have been around the block once or twice. Don't get manipulated, just because a nice attractive man is flirting with you or wanting to spend his time with you. Because, if you're an attractive girl in her 20's, trust me, there are many more where that one came from. And the best place to find them,  is at happy hours in the neighborhood of your style of man; Aka, the downtown area equals business man, or in the marina you can find your marina bro. 

Some words of wisdom, watch out for the party animal. You know the one that doesn't have anything going on in his life and all he does is party. If he isn't making his money from partying, then run the other direction. We need one with goals. But if you ask me, how to get that man to put a ring on it. I'm still working on that one. O, but we will save marriage for another day! Keep it classy San Francisco!!

Baggage

Baggage can be a heavy thing to carry around. So instead of carrying it around, sometimes we put it on carts. When we do that, we forget how much baggage is actually there. Anything and anyone could have an affect on the weight in your bag.  It could be something that is simple or complex. 

Sometimes it takes an accident or some twist of faith, to make one aware of the baggage they lug around. With this baggage, one goes on travels to find the love they have been searching for; yet, when it comes to love or romance baggage does nothing but slow you down.  It holds you back from reaching your final destination. 

To love or be love, one can not have to much luggage. A simple small carry on would be enough. How does one let go or get rid of baggage? I think you have to work through it, by testing yourself and knowing yourself, doing what you want and reaching your goals. Sometimes you cant  hide the bags anymore, and carts can only hold so much.  So at one point in time they will have to be transported some how.  But it's a lot easier when the bag checkers misplaces your bag. It gets lost in the shuffle of all the other lost and forgotten luggage and then all you can do is forget. 

But for the bags we end up taking home with us, we have to work through those. We have to put all the dirty clothes in the laundry and the toiletries in the bathroom. And remind ourselves how on the next trip, we aren't bring as many things back with us, because carrying that much luggage is tiring. You never know when something special will be waiting for you at the baggage claim. 

Being on the dance floor...

As the bass is bumping and the lights are flashing, people are connecting from all walks of life; no matter if the dance floor is dirty cement or glossy hardwood. Out on the dance floor people interact with one another over the enjoyment of the rhythm. Many finding or forming new relations with each other.

You know the moment when you fall in love with the Dj, because he is laying down such a good set, or when you and the person you are dancing with fall into sink with each others movements, and that feeling comes over you. That night or event seems to stick with you, sometimes finding you in your dreams.

The connection you made that evening will forever remain on the dance floor. How far you take it, is up to you. On the floor one can be and move in whatever way feels true and right to them. So let them dance until the sun comes up. As, Jennifer Lopez says, "If you're a party freak, then step on the floor. If your an animal, then tear up the floor." As we like it, see you on the floor.